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So nearly 3 years have passed since my separation and I get an invite to a meet up with a group of friends.  These are some of my closest friends who were there for me when things were at their toughest… but there is a catch. My ex and I were together for a long…

I remember at the time the complete shock I was in.  I was such a smug married, with my 2.4 children.  I couldn’t believe it was happening to me. I kept thinking I’d wake up and it would all be a dream.  The person who had been my closest friend, was now behaving like someone…

The stories here are from people from all walks of life, from different backgrounds and different break-ups but they all speak of recovery. These are stories of normal, everyday people: “Recovery is an incremental process of rediscovering myself, of realising I am not a failure or a reject but a person who has a lot to…

We had our end of course dinner on Monday where we also invited people back from previous courses. It was so exciting to hear people’s stories of recovery. Here are some of their stories (I will write some more over the next few days). What is recovery like for you? “Letting go of the pain…

We are at the end of our summer course with the dinner on Monday evening. Excitingly around 40 people from previous courses are coming back to join us. Lots of other people from previous courses emailed to say that they would have loved to have been there (yes it’s hard to come back from Bangkok,…

From what I read in the papers about Tom Cruz and Katie Holmes, it sounds like the lawyers have been lined up and the battle for custody of a young child is beginning. It’s the same story we’ve heard and seen many times. The divorce of two people is hard enough but for two people…

Divorce and separation, like anything emotional, can be a bit socially awkward. Friends who want to help just don’t know how. They know they can’t wave a magic wand and it is uncomfortable seeing someone you care about in distress. Sometimes that awkwardness causes friends to withdraw which can heap even more pain on an…

I used to work with a lady who would mention her divorce within a few moments of meeting someone. It was as if she couldn’t help herself, the words would just tumble out of her mouth. She had so much else to talk about, she did an interesting job, was involved with amateur dramatics and…

It’s funny what gets you through each day when things are difficult. When I was getting divorced we had friends next door who were also getting divorced. In the end because I stayed in our house I compared notes with the next-door neighbour’s wife who stayed in their house. We used to try and encourage…

My marriage ended because my husband had an affair. Although I wanted to try to make things work he didn’t. I felt so confused I just couldn’t see where things had gone so wrong. We loved each other, had fun together, rarely argued and talked about our feelings on a regular basis. I was definitely…