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I love an exercise that we do on the RDS course about listening to each other which we did this week. We got 30 people to do “reflective listening”: just listen, reflect back to the speaker some of the words and thoughts that they say and then ask “what is the most important thing for…

It’s funny how you remember certain events very clearly. Lady Diana dying. Kate and William’s wedding. I still remember the morning that Karen told me that she was having an affair even though it was over 15 years ago. It was a beautiful spring morning and the sun was shining through the windows. I think…

For me the best way of coping with the emotional fallout from my separation was to focus on small manageable things I could do to help myself.  One of the things I love about music is its ability to change my mood. I decided to set up a playlist of uplifting songs on my iPod to…

I was driving my car this morning and was cut up badly by a small car driving in a very crazy manner. I so wanted to get back at him somehow. He had honked his horn at me and I at him. He ended up being in front of me and I was left behind. …

About a year after my separation I was talking things over with my Mum and something she said really stopped me dead in my tracks. She said she that she was convinced that if I could just let go of the bitterness I had for my ex and the woman he had the affair with…

Surviving each day can be difficult when you are going through separation and divorce.  Your whole life seems to have been turned upside down. Maybe it’s over analysis of each time you have spoken with your ex. Maybe it’s just trying to work out what has gone on in the past. For me it was…