Restored Lives should go global: I was living in Singapore when my marriage broke down and it would have made my journey to recovery (and most importantly, that of my children) so much smoother. Not long after I came to London two years ago I read an article about the course. Initially I didn’t think […]

I thought I was living a wonderful life. I had just been given a new car for my 25th wedding anniversary, we had two brilliant children and a beautiful home. We worked hard together in two businesses and had life’s normal ups and downs.  We had several stressful attempts at infertility treatment and I had a […]

I’ve really struggled with Mother’s Day since divorce at times. This will be my fifth one on my own.  (Yeah I’m counting). To the point that I now actually make a deliberate choice to stay away from Facebook on that day, as I find all the status updates or pictures about how spoilt they’ve been, […]

There is a new film out on Nelson Mandela who was an amazing man. Much written about him, but is there anything that we can learn from him about going through a relationship breakdown? From South Africa’s perspective the relationship between black and whites had completely broken down, so much so that there were rules […]

Christmas can be such a tough time when you are separated or divorced.  Every advert seems to be about the “ideal” family and the pressure to create the perfect Christmas feels huge, especially if you have children. Perhaps you are facing your first Christmas alone or without your children for the first time or maybe […]

I think it is so difficult, even in recovery not to fall down the odd rabbit hole of unhelpful emotions.  For me getting back into dating was a virtual rabbit warren of emotional peril. I didn’t help myself by launching into the dating scene way too early on.  The old maxim that hurt people hurt […]

Well done! you made it through Christmas and New Year celebrations… speaking to my other RDS friends I know it is almost universally a difficult time of year for those of us who have been or are going through separations. A time where families get together to celebrate can be a painful reminder of what […]

So Christmas has rolled around again and although I love a mince pie and a bit of tinsel as much as the next person I’d be a liar if I said Christmas is an easy time. In fact the whole thing makes me want to paint myself green and declare a loud bah humbug to […]

Before I start this post I wanted to point out that I am certainly no expert on dating – as evidenced by the fact that I am still single 3 years after my separation.  Also if there was some sort of sports commentary on my dating life they would undoubtedly be quoting stats and averages, […]

I read today the account of a lady who found some old love letters from before her divorce.  She had moved on and so was able to enjoy them for what they once were.  She was able to remember the love they shared and feel good about having had those happy times without it being […]

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