At Restored Lives we discuss forgiveness One of the things we talk about at the Restored Lives course is forgiveness. It’s a prickly subject that always prompts a lot of animated discussion in the small groups. When your relationship has broken down if you have separated or divorced can you forgive? Should you forgive? Not everyone […]

Reading this may make you want to throw whatever device you are using to read it against the wall. I get it, but I promise it is true, however awful you feel today there are good things to come. What could be waiting for you? Just imagine if you had been with me on the […]

Restored Lives should go global: I was living in Singapore when my marriage broke down and it would have made my journey to recovery (and most importantly, that of my children) so much smoother. Not long after I came to London two years ago I read an article about the course. Initially I didn’t think […]

I thought I was living a wonderful life. I had just been given a new car for my 25th wedding anniversary, we had two brilliant children and a beautiful home. We worked hard together in two businesses and had life’s normal ups and downs.  We had several stressful attempts at infertility treatment and I had a […]

I’ve really struggled with Mother’s Day since divorce at times. This will be my fifth one on my own.  (Yeah I’m counting). To the point that I now actually make a deliberate choice to stay away from Facebook on that day, as I find all the status updates or pictures about how spoilt they’ve been, […]

There is a new film out on Nelson Mandela who was an amazing man. Much written about him, but is there anything that we can learn from him about going through a relationship breakdown? From South Africa’s perspective the relationship between black and whites had completely broken down, so much so that there were rules […]

Christmas can be such a tough time when you are separated or divorced.  Every advert seems to be about the “ideal” family and the pressure to create the perfect Christmas feels huge, especially if you have children. Perhaps you are facing your first Christmas alone or without your children for the first time or maybe […]

I think it is so difficult, even in recovery not to fall down the odd rabbit hole of unhelpful emotions.  For me getting back into dating was a virtual rabbit warren of emotional peril. I didn’t help myself by launching into the dating scene way too early on.  The old maxim that hurt people hurt […]

Well done! you made it through Christmas and New Year celebrations… speaking to my other RDS friends I know it is almost universally a difficult time of year for those of us who have been or are going through separations. A time where families get together to celebrate can be a painful reminder of what […]

So Christmas has rolled around again and although I love a mince pie and a bit of tinsel as much as the next person I’d be a liar if I said Christmas is an easy time. In fact the whole thing makes me want to paint myself green and declare a loud bah humbug to […]

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