Should I forgive my ex?

At Restored Lives we discuss forgivenessOne of the things we talk about at the Restored Lives course is forgiveness. It’s a prickly subject that always prompts a lot of animated discussion in the small groups. When your relationship has broken down if you have separated or divorced can you forgive? Should you forgive? Not everyone is […]

The mental exhaustion of single parenting

My mum is French which makes me half French. Now some say that the French are better at parenting than us. Indeed, there is a book about this very topic called ‘French Children Don’t Throw Food’ – a fascinating read. Whether you agree with the book or not – personally, I think that a societal […]

Celebrating your birthday single parent style

Birthdays are hard once separated or divorced. It can feel just like any other day and not special at all. Especially if you have young children. There’s no one there to take your children to get you a gift, card and cake. Or to make sure it’s wrapped and a surprise. Or to organise waking […]

How the end of fault-based divorce is a very good thing for families and society

Change from fault-based divorce is good for families and society   It may sound like a paradox but today’s news that the laws for divorce are being changed and moving away from a fault-based system is a very good thing for families and society as a whole. The current system is a confrontational process that […]

Mother’s Day as a single mum

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day. As I’ve written before, I find this day bittersweet. This is my tenth Mother’s Day alone now. I suppose I’m a veteran now? If that’s a good thing? When my marriage ended I definitely assumed by now I’d have met the man of my dreams and be settled again. Maybe another […]

6 tips for dealing with Mother’s Day as a divorcee

Mother’s Day can be fraught For those of us that are divorcees, Mother’s Day can be a fraught celebration. Perhaps you have no access to your children, perhaps you feel overwhelmed having to care for your children alone (read Kathy’s blog about Mother’s Day as a “single” mum).  Perhaps you are grieving for the children […]

Tackling resentment as a Mum

Lone parenting can be so hard.  You can often feel alone and that the entire burden of bringing the children up is your responsibility alone. My ex husband cannot often make the children’s special events or school parents evenings.  It is so hard not to get resentful.  I will send him a diary invite in […]

How a glimpse of the future might give you strength for today

Reading this may make you want to throw whatever device you are using to read it against the wall. I get it, but I promise it is true, however awful you feel today there are good things to come. What could be waiting for you? Just imagine if you had been with me on the […]

Restored Lives working with DAD.info, Europe’s largest independent advice site for dads

Restored Lives is always looking for ways to reach people who are suffering as a result of relationship breakdown to give them hope for their future. We know that the impact of divorce and separation can be far-reaching, affecting families, friends and wider society so helping one individual will mean that the benefits ripple out […]

7th January 2019 – Divorce Day

7th January has been earmarked “divorce day” as solicitors anticipate a spike in the number of applications for divorce. The inevitable stresses of the Christmas season together with the start of a new year often act as a catalyst for people in failing marriages to take the next step and file for divorce. If that’s […]

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