Should I talk about it? If you are going through a rough breakup, sometimes it can be hard to know if it is OK to talk about it. I know when I was going through my separation I was worried that my friends would feel like it was all I could talk about. What if […]

At Restored Lives we discuss forgiveness One of the things we talk about at the Restored Lives course is forgiveness. It’s a prickly subject that always prompts a lot of animated discussion in the small groups. When your relationship has broken down if you have separated or divorced can you forgive? Should you forgive? Not everyone […]

My mum is French which makes me half French. Now some say that the French are better at parenting than us. Indeed, there is a book about this very topic called ‘French Children Don’t Throw Food’ – a fascinating read. Whether you agree with the book or not – personally, I think that a societal […]

Birthdays are hard once separated or divorced. It can feel just like any other day and not special at all. Especially if you have young children. There’s no one there to take your children to get you a gift, card and cake. Or to make sure it’s wrapped and a surprise. Or to organise waking […]

Change from fault-based divorce is good for families and society   It may sound like a paradox but today’s news that the laws for divorce are being changed and moving away from a fault-based system is a very good thing for families and society as a whole. The current system is a confrontational process that […]

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day. As I’ve written before, I find this day bittersweet. This is my tenth Mother’s Day alone now. I suppose I’m a veteran now? If that’s a good thing? When my marriage ended I definitely assumed by now I’d have met the man of my dreams and be settled again. Maybe another […]

Mother’s Day can be fraught For those of us that are divorcees, Mother’s Day can be a fraught celebration. Perhaps you have no access to your children, perhaps you feel overwhelmed having to care for your children alone (read Kathy’s blog about Mother’s Day as a “single” mum).  Perhaps you are grieving for the children […]

Lone parenting can be so hard.  You can often feel alone and that the entire burden of bringing the children up is your responsibility alone. My ex husband cannot often make the children’s special events or school parents evenings.  It is so hard not to get resentful.  I will send him a diary invite in […]

Reading this may make you want to throw whatever device you are using to read it against the wall. I get it, but I promise it is true, however awful you feel today there are good things to come. What could be waiting for you? Just imagine if you had been with me on the […]

Restored Lives is always looking for ways to reach people who are suffering as a result of relationship breakdown to give them hope for their future. We know that the impact of divorce and separation can be far-reaching, affecting families, friends and wider society so helping one individual will mean that the benefits ripple out […]

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