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I always find this day a bit tough. Just a bit of background: my children’s Dad chose to walk away from our marriage and our children, when they were 11 months and 2 and a quarter years old, to have a full time relationship with a woman 10 years younger than me. I find myself…

Often when we read about single parenthood it is from the mother’s point of view.  The following post looks at the pain of divorce when you are a Dad. It is a very raw testimony. ‘I don’t want ready-made answers but most of all I want to be listened to and I want someone to…

This is the third blog in our short series about the challenges of divorce when you are a parent.  In this post Kathy shares some of her top tips for coping with children post-divorce. I always write their Dad’s next contact time on the Calendar, to help the children count down to it and you try and…

This is the second blog in our short series about the challenges of divorce when you are a parent.  This post examines the hardest parts of parenting through and after divorce. (read the first post in the series here) It’s hard to decide the most difficult aspect of raising children in a post-divorce context.  Perhaps…

Having children makes the process of divorce and separation much more complicated.  Whereas couples without children can choose to never see or speak to each other again those with children have to build a new collaborative relationship that will help them co-parent whilst dealing with their own and their children’s emotional fall out.  The responsibility…

At the RDS course we know that hearing how others have got through their divorce and recovery really helps. Here’s Kuda’s story: There were many factors that contributed to the breakdown of my marriage, but the actual divorce and separation came about because my husband was unfaithful and was not willing to put in the…

Well done! you made it through Christmas and New Year celebrations… speaking to my other RDS friends I know it is almost universally a difficult time of year for those of us who have been or are going through separations. A time where families get together to celebrate can be a painful reminder of what…

So Christmas has rolled around again and although I love a mince pie and a bit of tinsel as much as the next person I’d be a liar if I said Christmas is an easy time. In fact the whole thing makes me want to paint myself green and declare a loud bah humbug to…

I read today the account of a lady who found some old love letters from before her divorce.  She had moved on and so was able to enjoy them for what they once were.  She was able to remember the love they shared and feel good about having had those happy times without it being…

If you have already read my post “Am I Mad to Go?” you will know that I had an opportunity to meet my Ex and his new partner at a weekend organised by some of our mutual friends.  I really wasn’t sure what to do but felt that it would be better to face my…