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In this post Chris shares his experience of being a solo dad and the feelings he has about Father’s Day. It was December 2009, my oldest son Harrison was three. He came up to me and said in a very firm voice, “Daddy, I need to tell you something.” I said, “Yes, Harrison?”, to which…

I’ve really struggled with Mother’s Day since divorce at times. This will be my fifth one on my own.  (Yeah I’m counting). To the point that I now actually make a deliberate choice to stay away from Facebook on that day, as I find all the status updates or pictures about how spoilt they’ve been,…

There is a new film out on Nelson Mandela who was an amazing man. Much written about him, but is there anything that we can learn from him about going through a relationship breakdown? From South Africa’s perspective the relationship between black and whites had completely broken down, so much so that there were rules…

Christmas can be such a tough time when you are separated or divorced.  Every advert seems to be about the “ideal” family and the pressure to create the perfect Christmas feels huge, especially if you have children. Perhaps you are facing your first Christmas alone or without your children for the first time or maybe…

Attending a wedding when you are single can be tough – regardless of how happy you are for the couple or how keen you may be to celebrate their happy day with them. If you are going through divorce and separation it can be an absolute emotional mine field. It is the ultimate test of…

I always find this day a bit tough. Just a bit of background: my children’s Dad chose to walk away from our marriage and our children, when they were 11 months and 2 and a quarter years old, to have a full time relationship with a woman 10 years younger than me. I find myself…

Often when we read about single parenthood it is from the mother’s point of view.  The following post looks at the pain of divorce when you are a Dad. It is a very raw testimony. ‘I don’t want ready-made answers but most of all I want to be listened to and I want someone to…

This is the third blog in our short series about the challenges of divorce when you are a parent.  In this post Kathy shares some of her top tips for coping with children post-divorce. I always write their Dad’s next contact time on the Calendar, to help the children count down to it and you try and…

This is the second blog in our short series about the challenges of divorce when you are a parent.  This post examines the hardest parts of parenting through and after divorce. (read the first post in the series here) It’s hard to decide the most difficult aspect of raising children in a post-divorce context.  Perhaps…

Having children makes the process of divorce and separation much more complicated.  Whereas couples without children can choose to never see or speak to each other again those with children have to build a new collaborative relationship that will help them co-parent whilst dealing with their own and their children’s emotional fall out.  The responsibility…