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When I attended the course this topic was a tricky one.  The single most important thing in letting go of the emotional damage is forgiveness – so Erik tells us in his book and on the course. It stops us being tied to the past, it gives us hope for the future. My ex-husband and…

Restored Lives should go global: I was living in Singapore when my marriage broke down and it would have made my journey to recovery (and most importantly, that of my children) so much smoother. Not long after I came to London two years ago I read an article about the course. Initially I didn’t think…

I thought I was living a wonderful life. I had just been given a new car for my 25th wedding anniversary, we had two brilliant children and a beautiful home. We worked hard together in two businesses and had life’s normal ups and downs.  We had several stressful attempts at infertility treatment and I had a…

I had moved out from the marital home in January 2014 and got divorced in May, so when I enrolled on the course that started in June I thought I had most of the emotional turmoil squeezed out and finished, but Restored Lives helped me deal with the deep feelings of resentment and disappointment which…

I’ve really struggled with Mother’s Day since divorce at times. This will be my fifth one on my own.  (Yeah I’m counting). To the point that I now actually make a deliberate choice to stay away from Facebook on that day, as I find all the status updates or pictures about how spoilt they’ve been,…

There is a new film out on Nelson Mandela who was an amazing man. Much written about him, but is there anything that we can learn from him about going through a relationship breakdown? From South Africa’s perspective the relationship between black and whites had completely broken down, so much so that there were rules…

I always find this day a bit tough. Just a bit of background: my children’s Dad chose to walk away from our marriage and our children, when they were 11 months and 2 and a quarter years old, to have a full time relationship with a woman 10 years younger than me. I find myself…

I remember at the time the complete shock I was in.  I was such a smug married, with my 2.4 children.  I couldn’t believe it was happening to me. I kept thinking I’d wake up and it would all be a dream.  The person who had been my closest friend, was now behaving like someone…